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on July 17, 2003
Will this book help make you a more popular person? I suppose the basic flaw of any self-help book is that the reader can readily adopt the program of a book and find the on-ramp to the Highway of Success. The first two sections of this book amount to little more than common sense in dealing with other people. The final section, however, gives some fascinating insight into establishing rapport using Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Boothman writes persuasively enough, but gives almost nothing in the way of solid scientific evidence for his program (At one point, he actually says, "In my opinion, and it has no scientific basis other than my close enough acquaintanceships with more than 35 couples . . ."). He also offers the surprising revelation that couples with successful relationships share not the primary sensory preference but the secondary one, yet gives little in the way of how to determine this secondary preference in others. One might also wonder how to deal with seriously difficult people, skilled manipulators, or more than one individual at a time. Perhaps in a sequel. Still, this is better than most of what passes for self-help advice.
REVISED VIEWPOINT: I've recently read a few books on autism and Asperger's Syndrome which revealed, among other things, that those afflicted do not respond to body language or voice tone, unlike most people, who use those as the primary means of determining a person's intention. I also recently read John Philpin and Patricia Sierra's novel TUNNEL OF NIGHT (Philpin is a forensic psychologist, criminal profiler, and true-crime writer) in which it is stated that sociopaths who are aware of Neuro-Linguistic Programming can subvert it to deceive others. I'm downgrading my rating from 4 stars to 2 stars.