this is a well written book and well researched. You not only identify forms of abuse but also are provoked to look at yourself and see if you are harboring anything. Very good for some one who is feeling something is just "not right." Great help and insight. There are questions at the end of every chapter that deal with the issues discussed in the charpters just read. Makes you think.
I have just come out of a church just like this. I couldn't believe that this book described it to a T. It was absolutely amazing. It really helped me and my husband. It put to rest a lot of questions that we had and made us realize that we aren't bad or crazy people. There are really places like this book describes. If you are in an abusive church or have come out of one, I say READ THIS BOOK. It came in the mail last week and I opened it and read it in 2 1/2 hours. I did not put it down. That is GOOD! Enjoy and God bless!
To all those who love God but who do not want to be abused in God's name by their church leaders, you'll love this book. If you've ever felt you've given your best and you didn't run at the first sign of trouble in a church, but there came a point when you had been stripped of so much inside that you had to go, yet you were talked about from the pulpit as if you had given up on God, this book is for you! Don't use it as an excuse to not submit to your church leaders, because clearly God tells us we should. Don't use it to justify leaving a church because the leaders didn't listen to you about changing the songs the choir sings or because the pastor didn't come visit you in the hospital. That's not what it's about. Use it as a guideline to see when the things that you're being pressured to submit to cross the line from godly submission to man's manipulation and control. For those who would try to tell you that this book is not from God, remember this--David had a submissive attitude to Saul, when he was in Saul's house and afterwards. But when Saul tried to kill David because of his own emotional demons, DAVID RAN and GOD BACKED DAVID! So don't let church leaders tell you that you're wrong to leave a church in which abuse is being justified in God's name.